Hello Nidhi’s Diary

I am blessed with baby boy last year. Now everybody can understand why I left. Out of sight, out of mind. I may not have started, but I was very feeling very low today, then thought lets see whats going on my blog. Opened the blog but forgot how to go on Dashboard. My partner revised me everything. I was over whelmed with the comments of my blog friends. Deepak I am not saying Good-bye, not so soon.

After so long, it becomes very difficult how to write. I have problems to share, I have topics to discuss and since I have become mother, I have so many things to write about kid, but don’t know how to begin with. May be after 2- 3 posts I will be back to track.

Let me first introduce my child, his name is Nishank (which means fearless) and he is of 8 months now. I will soon put his picture on my blog.

Now I am going to check out other blogs, will start writing from next post.

Cheers

Interference of the neighbors

I am having a tough time with my neighbors. They are Gujrati family. Since from last two weeks I am working from home; so the woman of the family got the chance to interact with me. She is not very much educated, nice in talking but her children are like fevicol. They enter into my home whenever my door is open. Her daughter still has some sense of not touching the stuff but her son is totally out of control. He goes directly into our bedroom; take the stuff which he likes. One day he ate around 8/ 9 mints in one go. I was surprised, although it was very funny. I think some parents pamper their child like anything. I can’t teach that boy not to do this, but at least his mother can do this.

Her daughter’s exams are going on. She told her daughter that she can come to me if she has some problem in studies. I can understand that, to educate a child is a good thing but she comes to me ask the questions from her note book and she will answer. This questionnaire can be done by her mother also, because the answers are available. They are not a poor family where they don’t have resources. She has a coaching teacher as well. For one or two days, it was fine. Now she even comes in afternoon time to ask, when would I be free to teach her. Its going crazy. Teaching her means, attending the entire package which includes her mother visits and her crazy brother.

I don’t how to say “No” to them. I am very shy to refuse something. I am getting very irritated now. Her daughter will come today at 4 pm, I wish if I can vanish for sometime.

Swear language is not bad at times

Day before yesterday was an eventful day. My partner and I was coming back to home in the auto rickshaw. I was keep on cribbing about the auto driver who kept his auto engine on even on the traffic jam. I was lecturing my partner that these people are responsible for so much pollution. I even complaint the driver also, to stop his engine when the traffic light is for longer period. I have bugged my partner a lot becoz of that. When we were about to reach home, a crazy bike driver who was driving rashly, about to hit the auto rick. On top of that, he made the face, as if he is not guilty. He said something to auto driver, I didn’t listen that, but then all of sudden my partner used a swear language and screamed on him to go. I have never heard my partner using the swear language, that was the first time and he didn’t use the sophisticated version of swear words, it was one of those typical swear.

Generally I am very particular about the use of swear language in public or in front of gals but the other day it became very difficult for me to control my laugh. He was in bad temperament so I can’t dare to laugh. My partner is very silent, kind and peaceful person, it was much unexpected from him. I enjoyed seeing the new version of my partner who can get angry on wrong things when required.

Messy day

Waiting, this is what I am doing since morning. Due to some problem in office, we have been told to work from home. I was so excited about it, but now I have realized it is so difficult. The resources are limited like printer, scanner, office documents etc etc. Entire day I was on phone trying to get the resources to get the work done. Thousand calls came on my cell. Its more painful then to work from the office. Like my friends, who are thinking that I am enjoying holidays, of course other State Offices must be thinking the same about our office.

At office, I used to take break for an hour for lunch, two hours for chatting and net surfing, half an hour for the chatting with office collogues. At home, I didn’t even get a time to have lunch. Only in 10 mins I have taken some snacks for the lunch. It was so messy. Office outlook express doesn’t work at home PC. I have to check the office mail by web mail, which is also a pain. To open an excel file, it took ages, and if I have to open again, then again it asks for user ID and password. WTH. I even forgot to open my Orkut.

That is not enough. Since morning, I am waiting for the maid; she turned up at 6:30 pm. All the time I was waiting. Now she has gone, I am waiting for my partner. I wish, the bell rings and he comes. Waiting is not at all easy. You can’t concentrate on any other thing; just keep on thinking when the other will turn up.

Ah, I will stop here; hope that tomorrow will be a better day.

Average Looking gal= Commitment + value for relationship

Today from one of my very close friend, I got to know that average looking girls are much more in demand then the beautiful girls. His survey was from his own college from where he is doing MBA. I was kinda taking it as joke, but he was quite confident about what he was saying. As per him, the average looking girl understands the value of relationship and commitment. So they are much more in demand. Beautiful girls are difficult to approach and they are not reliable.

hmmm…I don’t know the way he thinks is right or wrong. I was bit confused, I thot let me write on my diary and see what other thinks on that, esp’ boys.

Its kind of a stupid post, but I am curious to know if he thinks is right or not.

Scary daughters

During lunch time, we were chatting in the office. All the men had already left after having food and women were all in swing to share things about their 5/6 year old daughters. It was very scary to listen. The comments and the way new generation girls are talking to their mothers. Some of the comments were as follows:

Daughter of Mrs. X: Called her up at 2400 hrs in the hotel, when her mother was traveling and said Mom tell Granny not to come in our home and do not boss over me.

Daughter of Mrs. Y: Mom, don’t force me to love Granny, I don’t like her. She always ask me, have some food, how are you and I don’t like to answer her questions.

Poor Grannies, they are not in demand any more. It was strange that both of my colleagues daughters has problem with their grannies.

Daughter of Mrs. X: As you enter in the house, she will say, Mom please don’t start. Mom, we are the only family in which you have given pen as in the return gift. Meet my friend parents; they arrange a party organizer and some Entertainment guy for the B’day party. The return gifts are also expensive. Mom, papa doesn’t interfere, only you irritate me.

Daughter of Mrs. Y: Mom, I have School meet in October, if you are not going on tour, then you can come, but that is not MUST. I have already arranged someone for the makeup, you don’t have to do. She replied, education has no other alternative, don’t waste time in dance item in School. Mom, you always discourage me. Mom, don’t worry about my lunch, if you have to rush to office then go. I can order from the canteen, I don’t want to listen later from you that you are so kind that you have made lunch for me when you are so busy.

Both of my colleagues were telling, sometimes they think that are they trying to hurt them personally or they just said it ? No doubt, it’s very hurting. You do everything for child and when they answer you like this, how you would feel. I would weep, if my daughter will reply me like this. Parents have accepted thinking today’s children are like that only. Ironically, they favor Father’s because they are always nice to them. If, I put myself in their shoes, I will feel harassed by the children. They are so blunt, they let you feel guilty and can hurt you at any extreme. They are so conscious about their reputation and so many complexes. On all the occasions, they will compare with others. I really got scared; if my daughter will talk like this to me, how would I react.

I think all the Indian serials, where it’s only about the torture on Betiyaan (daughters), should stop making it. Daughters are no more in control of their parents.

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I have been tagged by Nabeel

Here are the answers for the following questions:

• What according to you, is a blog?
Ans: For me, blog is to share your thought with others and get to know how others think on the same thing.

• How did you come to know abt blogging?
Ans: who else, my partner. I can’t disclose his blog name here.

• How far it has changed your perception?
Ans: Null; but I get to know that how ppl are different from each other. Everyone has their own perception, which is also not wrong.

• Are you true to yourself while blogging ?
Ans: I am like an open book while blogging. I never do any research work while posting anything. I post whatever I feel like.

• Any blog? you wish to be the author of ? and why?
Ans: Arti’s Blog Her stories and poems are too good. I wish I can write like her. She is very creative.

• What it has preached you?
Ans: That she is better then Ektaa Kapoor. lol

• Two of your fav. Blogs? And why?
Ans:
Ankit’s blog His posts are simple. I love to read simple posts rather the complicated language to glorify the post. The attention goes on understanding the language then to understand what the author wants to say.

Lisa’s blog We relate to each other very well. It surprises me that we both are of totally different origin and surroundings but lot of things are common in between us (even our age, hehehehehhe).

• One of your fav. Post by a fellow blogger?
Ans: I have two fav. posts. The links are as follows:

http://softykid.blogspot.com/2006/04/criticism-who-needs-it-isnt-it.html#links

http://notestomyself.wordpress.com/2006/02/17/gender-difference-in-blogging-world/

• One of your fav. Post by yourself?
Ans: That’s the difficult question. I don’t know, I couldn’t find one

• A blog which inspired you?
Ans: Neeraj’s blog It inspires me that technology can be complicated also to understand (hehehehehhehe)

• any Blog friends ! who are they? and why?
So many blog friends I have, Dilip, Lisa, you, JV, Shailesh, Ankit, Aftab, Abhijeet, Amit, Crazy Life( I don’t know his name) etc etc..I love to read their posts.

• If provided opportunity would you like to meet a fellow blogger? Who? and why?
I would love to meet Dilip becoz he is the one who always support me. Sometimes I write crap in my post still he likes it.

• name a blogger, who comments regularly in each post of yours?
Ans: who else, again Dilip

• A blog, where you comment regularly?
Ans: hmm, Lisa’s blog

• How does it feel to be called as a blogger?
Ans: no one has called me by this name so far. Still I won’t mind.

Note: I further tag it to Neeraj, JV, Ankit, Crazy Life, Dilip and Lisa.