Now it’s almost been a year since I left my job. I was getting a decent package but I don’t have any grudge of leaving my job. I am engaged in a job which is much more important and has first priority for looking after my child. He is my responsibility, I can’t depend on his paternal and maternal grandparents for that. I know all the reasoning of leaving my job but somehow in the back of my mind, I thought about my job, my salary, my office tours and retreats. I never ever cared about the money but after leaving my job, I started believe that salary does matter.
It was my own salary, I never have to give any account of that to my partner. I could have purchased any crap thing without giving any explanation to anyone. Although my partner never asked for any account but still I can’t spend his salary lavishly. Its not ethical. I don’t know, may be its ethical, the wife have all right on everything of husband. For me, I think thousand times before spending. I feel like I have become very poor, which I am not. I don’t know how other house wives manage it so well. Does they become care free about their husband’s salary and spend it where they want to or like me, think about the utility of the thing twice, thrice …. before actually purchasing it.

Its not a good post, bit confusing. Well you can imagine how difficult it becomes to take time for the blog when you have 7- 8 months old kid. I have written what I was going through, I don’t have time for the editing work.

9 Comments

  1. I totally understand your situation. However good your partner may be you can never feel your total right on the money. I also had to leave my job when i came to US on a dependent visa. I guess a Job is actually associated to a lot of things including money…you self confidence, your social life and much more

  2. Hello, Nidhi

    You probably will not remember me, but today is the second birthday of my blog, and when I was checked back to its beginning, I saw that you were one of the first to write on my site. Thank you.

    Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby…and especially on your decision to quit your job and stay home to care for him. He is a gift from God, and I encourage you to treasure every moment of his childhood. Very quickly…he will be gone.

    Blessings to you and yours,

    Shirley Buxton
    http://www.writenow.wordpress.com

  3. Hello, Nidhi

    You probably will not remember me, but today is the second birthday of my blog, and when I was checked back to its beginning, I saw that you were one of the first to write on my site. Thank you.

    Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby…and especially on your decision to quit your job and stay home to care for him. He is a gift from God, and I encourage you to treasure every moment of his childhood. Very quickly…he will be gone.

    Blessings to you and yours,

    Shirley Buxton
    http://www.writenow.wordpress.com

  4. no.. u want to say sumthing. but u r expressing sumthing else…u r feeling suffocation. bt the same time.. u r being kind towards ur partner…u r missng ur previous life, ur friends, bf(?). but u can quit.. life is not all abt tv quiz show..

  5. like everthing has 2 sides. time can tell about your decision.. but make sure abt your decision.. there is no point thinking the bad side of the decision now.. life is too short ..so enjoy whatever you do.. life will give you what you need ..

    http://sreespeaks.wordpress.com/

  6. Nidhi,
    Don’t apologize. I remember having to attend college 2 weeks after having my second child (and a surgery) – and it was rather difficult. I think many people can relate to your concerns. You are independent, ambitous and considerate. Perhaps you should speak to your partner about how you feel ; (if you haven’t already). Perhaps the response will alleviate the anxiety – or at least give you some viable options to work with. and most importantly, remember that it won’t be forever : ) P.S. – I wrote a blog inspired by your comment to another posting I made. ‘Lost journals of the house parent’ – I think its still in my January folder…
    Take care, Dee

  7. Hi Shirley, Thanks a lot.

    Hi Sunil, Do u have any blog.

    Hi Sree, yes, most of the time i try to thik positive.

    Hi Dacostad, what shld I talk to him when I know there is no option left.

    Cheers

  8. Hey Nidhi,

    The post seemed fine (just like a normal woman thinking about her present and future), but the comments by other people gave me a lot of negative vibes about the whole issue.

    Obviously I am nobody to judge your situation or comment on it, but I suggest you could sit and talk out some of your problems with your husband. I am sure he’ll reassure you and solve some of the outstanding issues in your lives.

    And sometimes, even if there is no option, still its good to talk about it with each other, and feel confident about the fact that however helpless our plight might be, we’re still together in facing it.

    Regards,
    Anurag.

  9. Hey Nidhi,

    I read your blog first time and seeing my future in you…as i m leaving soon job in coming months because of delivery and post baby care….

    Wish you luck for overcoming this thing soon…

    Rashmi


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