Posted by: Nidhi | March 23, 2006

Blood relations

The other day, in one of our general group discussion, one girl said that sexual harassment/ relationship between brother and sister is very common. The other girl interrupted her that I can believe between cousin brothers and sisters but not real. It may happen but should not be very common. I shared my views that cousins been involved are common as cousin brothers and sisters doesn’t live together in joint families. If they do so, then there may not get into relationship.

My pop-in-law was telling me that when my partner was small, they used to stay in joint family. His uncle’s has two daughters. If someone asks from him, how many brother and sisters’ you are, he used to reply three, counting his two cousin sisters as well. He has two cousin brothers also in different city, he has never counted them as his brother. For him, he has two cousin brothers and two sisters. It makes such big difference for children to stay in joint family. One of my other collogue agreed with me that if we stay in joint family then the chances of sexual harassment or start relationship with cousin brother and sister are less.

However, the girl who remarked that between real brother and sister is also common doesnot agreed on my point. As per her, thats the growing age for both the sex so they get attracted towards their own bro’/ sis’. I don’t completely disagree her, I have also heard one case of that, but for me to believe that its very common is not so easy. I cann’t even imagine that.

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Hi Nidhi , even i can not imagine that sexual harassment/relationship between brother and sister exists. i can not imagine even in dream.i’m surprised to hear some positive views on this.
i agree with that this relationship between cousions exist . but i think this is also a rare case. i agree with u Nidhi that if we stay in joint family then the chances of sexual harassment/relationship with cousin brother or sister will be less.

By: Dilip on March 23, 2006
at 12:37 pm

I’m not sure I understand this.

I had a friend in school whose father was her mums first cousin. NOW, before anyone screams. The mother was adopted out and they’d been married 20 years before they found out they were cousins.

One of my brothers is biologically my cousin, but I’ve always considered him my brother because we’ve grown up together and he is everything that a brother is.

I have a friend who was molested by her uncle, who had lived with them. My father was molested by his mother, and an uncle. I have another friend who was molested by her own sister.

This kind of thing is more common than people realise because people don’t talk about it.

By: krome.obsession on March 23, 2006
at 2:41 pm

I dont think people talk about this and I don’t think I ever think about that too. Thanks for sharing.

By: Tu Cong Van on March 23, 2006
at 3:09 pm

I have heard of relationships between cousins and also harrasment by senior family members like Uncles and Aunties but never ever heard about a case where biological brothers and sisters are into these things.
I am not saying that this is totally impossible as the most unpredictable nature in this whole world is the human nature itself.

By: Falak on March 23, 2006
at 3:38 pm

Completely Un-imaginable, so no comments!

By: Life is Colorful on March 24, 2006
at 1:50 am

Dear Dilip, Cousins harassment/ relationship is not rare that is very common.

Dear Kaya, Yes people dont talk about it, and they even teach their children also not to talk about that.

Dear Tu Cong, Thanks for the comment

Dear Falak, How true it is, the most unpredictable nature in this whole world is the human nature. Well said.

Dear Abhijeet, yes it is but still it happens.

By: Nidhi on March 24, 2006
at 9:33 am

Let me again play the “Devil’s Advocate” :-)

If we look at things mythologically, then we all are decendents of 1 man & 1 womam that’s Adam & Eve for you. So what does that makes us all ???

Second mythological proof, the Noah’s Ark !! It is said that Noah took 1 male & 1 female of all species onboard including humans. So again what does that makes us ??

By: Neeraj on March 24, 2006
at 11:17 am

Dear Neeraj, Are you saying that means relationship between brothers and sisters or between cousins doesnt make much difference. Do you find it normal.

By: Nidhi on March 24, 2006
at 12:47 pm

Oh no ! Never ! I am not saying anything, I’m quiet as a Dodo.

I just wrote that since it was a mythological fact. So make up your own mind, which one is true !

By: Neeraj on March 24, 2006
at 1:29 pm

Dear Neeraj, lol

Have a nice day ahead

By: Nidhi on March 24, 2006
at 1:34 pm

“Dear Falak, How true it is, the most unpredictable nature in this whole world is the human nature. Well said.”

Cool, atleast something in my whole f****** life I said is right. :P

By: Falak on March 24, 2006
at 2:11 pm

i have bestfriend that he touch his sister. I asking why to him. And he reply to me that at first he just want to fill what it’s like the girl ‘thing’. Then he try to stop by try to fall in love with other girl but what can he do because when first he talk to the girl he want to love the girl, the girl just dump him before their get know each other. In many years he felt desprate, stress and do not how to stop this and he change to old habit touch his sister. He try to stop but he cant because he want to love someone and communicate by the touch. Before this he has been busted by his sister when she woke up when he touch her. His sister told his parent all what happen. At first the relation between his sister and him is ok but when his parent tell to his sister to dont ever communicate with him for forever he start going crazy. When the years past by his sister become more hate to him. He try to touch his sister when she is sleep and he get lucky but not always and when his sister busted him, his sister will say to him ‘pig’ the she sleep again. He get scare because he knew she will tell the parent next morning. What i can says here my friend are mentally ill. But his parent dont want sent him to see a doctor because they think he only crazy for sex. He tell me how he touch his sister. He touch her with gentle and soft like holding a new born child. Not with force like other case. He love very much his sister and dont bring any harm to her. But his sister thing my friend are try to force her to having sex. He just to tell his sister that he love her so much by the touch. I tell this story because what can i tell from this case is to tell other people that touch are not all sexual harassment some time it’s are the way saying that we love them more than their lover love them.

By: jammer on April 24, 2006
at 4:58 pm

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