Yesterday while making food for myself and my partner, I was kept on thinking why women been sent to Earth with so much responsibilties.
At my own home, when my mom used to cook for us (my dad, my grand ma, brother and me) I used to take it for granted that its her responsibilty to cook. Now I started doing cooking for us (my partner and me), I can realize that how all the work which we (women) do never been counted. I have not been forced by my partner to do cooking, but it has come on my own that I have to cook. I dont know why, probably we all are always been tought like that only. Why the hell, when I am also working, may be my workload is less to my partner, may be my salary is less then him but had it been the equal, will there be any change. I dont think so, then also cooking would be on my head.
Some people presume that the women who are house wifes have to do the house work like cooking, cleaning since they are earning for them. I would like to tell them that doing house work is not only very difficult but boring also. When they go to office, they chat with other people and do something innovative but for the house wifes, they have to do the same thing on daily basis. They also want to enjoy life like you, so if they sometimes dont want to work, its very genuine. One shouldnt comment them, they are house wifes so what work they have except cooking and cleaning home.
Yesterday when after cooking, my partner said “Thanks to cook food”. I was so glad to hear that he noticed my work. It was just a small thanks but still I got so happy that he appreciated. We, women are really great I think. We manage office, home, partner’s requirement everything without even a second thought that “Why all responsibilities are given to us only”. In return, we expect our husband to take few responsibilities, if they take we consider us as lucky and if they dont then we try to adjust.
I dont know from where we got such energy that we all alone take all the responsibilities and dont even think about it.
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My mom is a teacher but she also does all the housework herself. Since I grew up watching my dad help her, it was kinda natural for me to help my partener in her chores when I got married. It also gives us a little more time together. Also kitchen is a great place to stage mock fights
Ya thats what I mean, you will help. Why cant women help man in kitchen. Your line also mean that ultimatly its her responsibilty. If you dont help, then also she has to do, she wont leave cooking food for you if you dont help……
(Generally, ya kitchen is really a good place)
Now that more and more women are working, the social fabric is slowly changing. It will be sometime though when a girl helps a guy in kitchen. I guess it’s because that’s how kids are brought up. From what I can see, It won’t matter after sometime who is helping whom. It will be seen as a joint responsibility.
On a related note, it’s the affectionate mothers who are partially to blame for this. They never engage guys in the kitchen work while telling girls all the time to learn cooking. Hope you won’t do the same to your kids
hahaha…LOL… I think I wont if I have a daughter. If I have boy/ girl I will tell them to learn cooking so that they will be able to help their partner.
Ya, if men also started taking it as joint responsibilty then its something different but if they dont and women think that they should then it would become a big factor of fighting
Well, you do the cooking because I don’t know many things to cook and what all I do know to cook, I already have quiet a repo for that, as you have seen & tasted for yourself
My Partner, I have not written in the intention of you start doing cooking but u tell me frankly if you learn cooking, will you cook on daily basis and take as your responsibilty. No you wont, becoz we have been teached like this only.
I dont do the cooking becoz you dont know, I do becoz its one of my responsibilty.
I love to cook food for you honey…..Love you
” …. becoz we have been teached like this only.
I dont do the cooking becoz you dont know, I do becoz its one of my responsibilty.”
I completely disagree with this statements. It is not what we are taught that we remember or follow, but simply what we want for ourlselves. We all are taught so many things in life, if you want to say you remember everything and follow them too, then you are not being true to yourself. We always learn what we want to learn.
And as an old saying goes “You can’t beat a donkey into a horse”.
The things always comes down to what WE want for ourselves and for people we love. Slogging onto things on the name of responsibility is not worth doing it at all [yes, you can quote mo on this]. Again it’s the way WE see at things. And yes, everyone has responsibilities to carry.
seems this fight ’s gonna go the home as well
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Happy Fightinggg….
oops! seems i spammed ur comment box!!
No worries, I have deleted the duplicate comment
Women are un-questionably are great.. You have multi-taks ability like Windows
You can cook, talk on phone, watch tv togather. Whereas man can’t do more than one thing at a time. He can’t concentrate phone talk on when volume of TV or music is on.
So you are meant for multitasking and make the life of men more comfortable
(dont cosider me as male chauvinist for this statement)
That was the original role nature intended , female as nest-protector and male as hunter.
I am with you on every point and I am sincere at what I said , women are really great.
When the Churchil was told “women will rule in 21st century”, he coyly replied “in 21st century too”
u say its not responsibilty then tell me if I dont do it, who will feel bad about it: you, my parents, your parents and all other relatives. Becoz everyone expect that its my responsibilty. No one thinks that you dont know cooking thatswhy I am cooking.
Why u written, doing in the name of responsibilty is not worth doing it. Do u think that we shouldnt do our responsibilties, if it doesnt have worth then why ppl do so many sacrifices for their duties and responsibilties.
Still I will quote that the great Cooks still love their wives cooking at home and they like to cook on the T.V as their profession. Their professional aptitude ends when they reaches home and see their wife in front of them.
JV: I fully agree with you but why this excess energy is only honoured to the women of this world and not equally distributed among the men and women?
Deepak .. this is not a fight, this is Quality Conversation, so don’t worry this won’t be carried to our home
It is not the matter of excess energy. But particular energy being ditributed both the genders according to their suitble role.
Lets take an example of eyesight. Women have wider range to of eye, they can cover more vision then men.Whereas men have narrow and concentrated vision. Reason lies in the evolution. Female has to look after her cave, scattered childs, picking up vegetables etc. When male has to hunt has to concentrate on particular prey or point and cannot afford to loose the vision. If male has wider vision he wouldnt able to do so.So, generally men are better driver then women for this reason, and particulalry night drive women mostly fail make judgment about the triaffic on the road.
Male brain, on account of various tactics and strategies required for prey and defense , has developed better logical mind. When female is mostly attached to emotional side of the brain. And therefore, two female talk on different and irrelavnt subjects at one sitting without bothering to hint that they are chaning subject to her female partner. And male would be totally frustrated on sudden change of subject by female and blame her for not able to make up of mind of her own.
So, in short, male and female are having their own unique energy pool, but alas, in modern era it is the female ‘energy’ which is still required and needed unlike the ‘energy’ of male.
Consider this too, after begining of modern civilisation , some 200-300 years ago, instances of wars have greatly reduced and at the dawn of industrial era farming become much easier and people depended less on hunting. Only thereafter, sports like football and other sports have emrged as subtle utilisation of the male energies.
So, it is not the matter of excess engergy but unused skills of male energy. Women will remain great, until my generation and next few generations of male divert their energy for more useful taks.
Oh, in rust to finish the previous long comment, I forgot add that my latest post is dedicated to all the women bloggers who are more expressive and I enjoy their post, including yours , and commeting upon them,
Kudos to all of you.
Hasty of me, it is rush not ‘rust’.
amen sister!
Maybe we need society to accept house husbands. That would solve a lot of problems!!
i’ve always felt women where far stronger then men…..not physically, but i that we can and do endure more without complaint or credit…
Very well said nidhi.
Sometimes somethings are unsaid and we are expected to do it in anycase. I think ‘great n holy’ are those hands that can cook and feed someone . Its a gods gift if one can master the art of cooking.
Plus if seen cooking is a very creative activity and if the result turns out delicious….the satisfation is an ulitmate high.
Happy Cooking and enjoy it, it will be all the more fun.
JV: Your comments are always very postitive and justified. I read your post about “Gender difference in Blogging’ and I really liked reading it.
Rahul M: I believe the thinking needs to be changed and broad. Being a house wife/ working woman/ house husband/ working husband doesnt really matter much. One has to be mature and understanable with the partner.
Katpop and Anamika: Its so true…….
I enjoy cooking although I am not master in this art but I love the food which occasionaly my partner made for me. I really appreciate him when he does that. (It seems their things are never unsaid…LOL)
After written so much of women and their abilities, now I am really expecting some male to write about their skills. Any post which say “Men are great”. Looking forward for that post….and do comment me on this post if someone write. I would love to read that….
Male dont need such proclamation. We consider ourselves humble in order to feel you GREAT (just joking).
And , Nidhi, as I have said somewhere, and tempted most of time, to steal your subjects; but everytime positive side of my character takes hold of me and I go on commenting on your post rather to post something of my own. You always give me something to write about, comment about, thanks for the same.
I am unable to pen down self-flattery, because I feel I cannot say why men are great. There are thousand and one thing which male can do better, only due to their unique physical and mental skills like their counterpart.
So, I believe I dont want to write down the list of jobs male can do, or can do better then female. There is no point of comparing ablities of male against female.
Pointing out who is great will be simply a wild goose chase. Why male do all these things? to attract the female, a suitable partner!!! and why female do all their work with great ablitites, just to secure a suitable partner.
Anyway, this is stricly my views, other male bloggers feel free to write on the suggestion, and I will love to participate in that post too.
I feel very strongly that in todays society people are so obsessed with equality that they forget what makes each individual special. There are undeniable differences between genders, just as there are between races. This doesn’t make one above the other, it simply adds to the beauty of each and every person. As a woman I am better at multi-tasking and seeing the “bigger picture” than the average male (after all, there are men that can multi-task), this comes in useful for achieving all the tasks I have set for myself around the home and yet still get my course work done and spending time on my site. On the other hand this means that I find it really hard to focus in on just one task, which is where a man has an advantage over me. My partner finds it easy to focus on just one thing at a time, giving him a great strength in coming up with logical answers to fixing different things around the house and picking the quickest route to any chosen destination. With my womanly blessings (or curse) I have a special ability to love him in a very special way, a way which finds most woman loving all the little annoying things their partners does because it is part of what makes up the whole. My partner on the other hand has a very special way of loving me, he can focus on the tiny details that make me different from anyone else, that make me special. In todays society these differences are being labeled a lot of the time as a weakness. People should embrace these differences and learn to use them to their advantage to gain the very best out of life. This doesn’t mean woman should cook all the time. My multi-tasking allows me to pencil in time to get a three course dinner ready even though I have a 3yo daughter and 4mo son, a house to take care of, a website to run, a course to get ready for, and a billion other issues. My partner on the other hand has tunnel vision, which comes in useful for selecting a good wine to match a meal, and the right herbs to mix in with everything. Working with each others strengths makes things so much more beautiful.
In reply to your challenge here is my reply:
Men are also great
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